Relationships

     Relationships are highly undervalued. The relationship between you and your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, your best friends, your boyfriend, your teacher, etcetera. Every single relationship is special and can never be like another and all of these matter. Many failed relationships occur in our lives in order for us to learn from them and how to better protect ourselves from the evils in our world, while many of successful ones still exist in our lives to demonstrate to us that it is possible and just how amazing life can be. Things happen, people change for the good or worse and you either adapt to their new ways or have no other choice but to move on for the better because what they provided at some point is no longer there for your benefit. What many people do not realize is that all these distinct relationships between all the people in your life play a large role in your future and your decisions. They are extremely important and you must pay close attention to each and every single one of them because they do affect you whether you accept it or not.

     The two key factors in maintaining any healthy relationship are trust and communication. The minute one of these factors fails to take place, the relationship between you and that individual begins to spiral downwards. If you think about the reason why many relationships have failed miserably, is because they lacked one of these components. If a female heard a drastic rumor about her boyfriend and believed it to be true and then decides to make a tragic decision and end the relationship between the two, this would be an example of lack of trust. If you have an issue with your best friend and because you wish to not make things awkward or ruin the great friendship between you two and choose to remain silent and hold it in instead rather than discuss it, you would be lacking communication. The absence of trust and communication only result negatively and the worst part is that they do not only ruin that particular relationship but many more to come. Why? You begin to doubt further relationships because you have been hurt before and feel that those people who may simply be innocent will do the same. This is important in relationships between you and your other half as well as new friendships, simply because you only have one mother, one father and so many brothers and sisters that could never be replaced.     

     It has been said that if you surround yourself with optimistic people, you have a higher chance of receiving those positive vibes and indulging in that nature just as if you were to surround yourself with pessimistic people, you would engage in that matter. This is primarily true and you can see this happen to weak individuals especially at the adolescence age.         Although many would like to claim that what someone does to them or says to them does not affect them, it does. We like to think that we have the ability to disregard other people’s thoughts and opinions about us yet all the proof is right there. We tend to care way too much what someone thinks about us that we are willing to dress to impress and do things that we may not be comfortable with to prove ourselves to others even if they are strangers, ironically enough. The saddest part is that we tend to ignore those who love us the most and seek the ones who ignore us. Now, why is that? Well, unfortunately enough, as human beings it is in our nature to crave the attention of those who we cannot have or do not necessarily want us back. This is bad because it can result in damaging many relationships in the future. Since we already know that we have the attention from those who love us, we do not feel like there is anything we need to do to fight for that relationship until we begin to lose it.

     It is important that we re-evaluate ourselves and seek the correct attention. We do not realize how much another human being can impact our decisions on numerous things, especially since we live in a world inhabited by only human beings as far as our direct interaction.People need to be much more careful about who they associate themselves with and if they are communicating with more negative groups to do what they can to not let it affect them. It is also extremely important to further yourself from those who are doing you no good any longer. It will be difficult,  especially if you share blood with any of these individuals or if they meant so much to you at some point in your life, but you must think about your happiness first before anyone else's. Instead of fearing change, we should be learning how to embrace it.